It is perhaps an obvious statement to note that divorce can temporarily take the spring out of anyone’s step. Even if a divorce is amicable and even if a divorce has been longed-for, there are elements of the divorce process that can be unquestionably draining. From legal practicalities to grief, divorce can be stressful and truly sad.

Thankfully, there are ways to regain one’s sense of optimism and joy during the divorce process and/or after one’s divorce has been finalized. Only you can truly know what will help you get your groove back. However, if you are feeling a bit stuck, please keep the following considerations in mind.

First, understand that you place yourself in the best position possible when you take excellent care of yourself emotionally, mentally and physically. It is harder to feel joyful when you are exhausted, are out of shape and are subsisting on Cheetos alone. When you take care of yourself, you set the tone for the rest of your life.

Second, it is important to remember that no experience should be considered a “failure” unless an individual refuses to learn from it. If your marriage has taught you more about yourself and more about life, it has not been a failed experience. Placing your marriage in context can help you to find your way out of your dark moments.

Finally, consider avoiding the question “What if?” unless it is applied to the future. Asking “What if?” of your past can be destructive, while asking “What if?” of your future can be inspiring.

Source: The Huffington Post, “7 Ways Men Say They Bounced Back From Divorce,” Brittany Wong, June 25, 2015