Multi-State Divorce & Family Law Blog by Stange Law Firm, PC

How to get your ‘groove back’ post-divorce On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Divorce on Friday, June 26, 2015. It is perhaps an obvious statement to note that divorce can temporarily take the spring out of anyone’s step. Even if a divorce is amicable and even if a divorce has been longed-for, there are elements of the divorce process that can be unquestionably draining. From legal practicalities to grief, divorce can be stressful and truly sad. Thankfully, there are ways to regain one’s sense of optimism and joy during the divorce process and/or after one’s divorce has

Celebrating single fatherhood this Father’s Day On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Fathers’ Rights on Friday, June 19, 2015. This weekend, families all over the nation will celebrate Father’s Day. The modern American family comes in all shapes and sizes. One particular kind of family will have a very specific reason to celebrate this weekend. When families are headed up by single fathers, this day takes on a unique meaning. For not only is fatherhood a reason for celebration, single fatherhood is a reality that allows many families to thrive despite unique obstacles. The reasons why single

Do ex military spouses always get retirement pay? On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in military family law on Thursday, June 11, 2015. After they retire, many military members in Illinois are going to continue getting retirement payments. These can be used somewhat like a pension plan, allowing the person to live comfortably even after he or she stops working. Now, for those who are married, the military member and his or her spouse will both benefit from the payments. For those who are divorced, there is no federal law ensuring that the ex-spouse will always get part

Are siblings always a package deal in child custody cases? On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Thursday, May 28, 2015. Whether you live here in Illinois or anywhere else in the United States, child custody disputes are often complex. Courts try to make custody decisions that reflect the best interests of the children, but those interests can change as the children get older. Even then, for better and worse, it is often difficult for the non-custodial parent to alter the custody arrangement without the cooperation of the parent who has primary custody. Non-custodial parents

What is parental alienation and how can I avoid it? On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Thursday, May 21, 2015. In any divorce where children are involved, protecting their interests and sheltering them from the turmoil are arguably the two most important goals. Even if parents were never married but are nonetheless involved in a custody dispute, children should never be put in the middle. To a certain extent, some collateral damage may be unavoidable. Even when mom and dad are doing the best they can, kids can often sense tension and anger. But

Giving yourself endurance in a family law dispute: Part II On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Divorce on Monday, May 11, 2015. Last week, we began a discussion about coping with divorce, child custody proceedings or any other family law dispute. Although these matters are stressful and will impact other parts of your life, the fact that they often take between a year and 18 months to finalize means that you must treat your family law dispute as a marathon and not a sprint. Coping with stress, anxiety and distracting thoughts is crucial to maintaining your health

Giving yourself endurance in a family law dispute: Part I On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Divorce on Thursday, May 7, 2015. We have previously written that divorce is often difficult emotionally, physically and financially. A major reason for this is that divorce (or any family law dispute) can leave you in a near-constant state of stress, worry and anger. Say, for instance, that your divorce or child custody dispute takes 18 months to finalize. For many people, that would mean 18 months of near-constant stress and all the psychosomatic symptoms that come with it. The human

Study supports joint custody as healthy option for kids On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Friday, May 1, 2015. In discussions about what is best for children after a parental divorce, assumptions sometimes get more weight and credibility than they should. For instance, shared custody has been growing in the United States, including here in Illinois, but it is still not as common as it is in some other countries. And a frequent argument against shared child custody is that kids would turn into “suitcase kids” – forever bouncing back and forth between homes with

Divorcing well: Choosing to rise above your spouse’s badmouthing On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Divorce on Friday, April 24, 2015. One of the worst aspects of divorce for most people is the emotional turmoil, much of which is due to the nasty things said by their soon-to-be ex. When facing the hurt and vulnerability that comes at the end of a relationship, both spouses may act uncharacteristically cruel toward one another. In such cases, the hurt is three-fold. First, you may be deeply hurt by the things said to you and about you. Second, you might

Study on divorce and heart attack risk gives a grim diagnosis On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in family law on Friday, April 17, 2015. We have previously warned readers that studies about marriage, divorce, custody and other family law issues must be taken with a grain of salt. On one hand, the findings are usually interesting. On the other hand, study results don’t apply to all cases and may not be all that helpful. A recent study seems to be an example. Researchers attempted to determine what effects divorce might have on a person’s health, specifically their

In post-divorce parenting, stability is the key On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Friday, April 10, 2015. It used to be the case in many parts of the U.S. that when parents got divorced, one parent would be granted sole custody. More often than not, it was the mother. But times are changing, and courts are increasingly trying to award joint custody when possible – or at least significant visitation rights to the non-custodial parent. With the move toward joint child custody, many former couples are finding that they need to develop a workable co-parenting